A lot of my time has been spent pondering the best strategies for making new friends. Getting to know new people can be fun and interesting, but it’s also hard work. You have to be ‘on‘ all the time. There is nothing that exhausts me more than being ‘on.’
At the beginning of any romantic relationship, I always looked forward to the day I could finally trade in my tight jeans for track pants. Swap my perfectly straighten hair for my natural wild mess. That’s when I knew we were solid and comfortable, and I could finally stop being ‘on’ all the time.
I have a similar end goal for new friendships. I anticipate the days of too much wine and cheese, and comfortable silences. Laughing like hyenas is also the sign of a good friend made.
A good friend, is so special. A rare find in a sea of acquaintances and fair-weather friends. It takes time to nurture a friendship into a good friendship. Whether they live down the street or across the country, I plan to make a more concerted effort to nurture those friendships that bring me comfort and joy.
This woman, recently featured in a Humans of New York post, sums it up:
“What’s been your greatest accomplishment?”
“Keeping in touch with distant friends and relatives.”
“Why is that important?”
“It’s important to always have people who remember you at various stages of your life. It’s especially important as you get older, because there are less of those people around. And they remind you who you are.”
The best part about a good friend? Time and distance don’t seem to matter.
– Miss 416🙂